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Leigh
07-16-2007, 09:41 AM
Iain has only had his hair cut twice in his life and yesterday marked haircut number three. The OT we are working with had hopes that the Wilbarger we are doing would help Iain with the experience of a haircut and I have to report it was utter :censored: at the barber shop.

We went to the spot where I had his hair cut last year and waited to check out which barber would be a good choice. He began to flirt a bit with one of the women and I thought *maybe* so I arranged to wait for her. When it came time, he of course would not sit alone, so I sat down and plunked him on me. He absolutely freaked when she tried to put the cape on, so I told her to let it be. He was a Tasmanian spinning devil when she sprayed his hair and I had to wonder why on earth I did not think to wet his unruly mass before we arrived. The shrieking was beyond belief. Everyone was on edge in this busy shop and a toddler Iain's age was getting a trim 2 chairs over and just sat dumbfounded. As per usual, I heard comments about my lack of ability or parenting skills to control my now ballistic son. I pulled out all the stops and had brought his beloved cars to clutch, a package of fruity chews and broke down and shoved a bottle in his mouth, but to no avail. It was rather surprising to see that he could scream even louder with a bottle hanging from his mouth. :hairpull: He was just spinning and the barber was very good at dodging the arms and legs as they spun about and although I frequently ended up with scissors close to my eyeballs, neck and ears, she was able to keep Iain safe and took her time to ensure his safety. By the end of it, both of us were drenched in sweat and he was ready to pass out and I was not too far behind him. The barber simply said that toddlers as young as he eventually learn how to sit still and not to worry. Uh, huh.

When we got to the cash, Iain limp and soggy but still sobbing in my arms I heard one woman exclaim that she would never, ever let her son behave like that in public and that there should be courses for first time Moms. She was talking to a barber and shooting me daggers. I normally would let things go but for some reason I just could not let this one go. I turned around, looked right at her and said "perhaps if you had an autistic child you would not make such judgements about things you could not possibly hope to understand." My barber said she did not see Iain as autistic and she thought he was a lovely, if spirited little boy. I actually laughed and thanked her again as she did her job and hardly flinched during what was an ordeal of epic proportion for her and handed her a huge tip. As I was leaving, I heard someone chiding the woman for being so loud and she was being told to keep her opinions to herself in the future. Doubtful she will. :angry7:

I felt bad for mentioning it as I do not want to use his PDD NOS as an excuse, but in reality, IT IS the reason he is the way he is.

At the end of the day, no harm was done and Iain no longer resembles a red-headed bushman. I can now start mentally preparing for next year's haircut. :smt036

I will have to see if I can get a pic of him sporting his new *do*. I have no idea how she managed to get it as even as she did and I was thrilled to see the curls are still there, even though his hair is much shorter. It feels so coarse now, I may have to start referring to him as Mr. Brillo.

OwensMom
07-16-2007, 10:01 AM
That sounds like an interesting haircut. I'm glad that the barber was so understanding, it's always great to know.
I can't stand when people have to add their opinion without even knowing the whole story. Glad that you spoke up and hopefully she learned from that.
I can't wait to see some pics of his new "do".

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07-16-2007, 10:10 AM
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Well done, Leigh!! Don't you feel the least little bit guilty about putting that bitty in her place. She was rude, hateful, and completely out of line. Yes, there are parents that don't try to control their children. You, however, are not one of them. Iain has a developmental issue that you struggle with (and win) on a daily basis. This was a major disruption to Iain's schedule and although he did have difficulty, you succeeded it accomplishing what you set out to do. I hope that hateful woman learned a lesson. I doubt that she did, but it definitely sounds like the other patrons of the barbershop found compassion for you and Iain. I'm sorry that the Wilbarger's didn't help with the haircut. I think you found a wonderful barber. I can't wait to see pics of the little cutie. I'm so glad his curls are still there.





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ConnorsMommy
07-16-2007, 10:32 AM
Ugh Leigh, what a hag that woman was! I'm sorry you had such a rough time but kudos to you for calling her out on it! Do they have any places in Canada that specialize in kids haircuts? Here they have a place called Cool Cuts 4 Kids and they have T.V.'s and video games for the kids while they get their hair cut. I can't wait to see a picture of Iain with his new do:D

Katey
07-16-2007, 12:02 PM
I can't wait to see the pics. It sounds like the hair dresser was a real saint. The little boy I used to take care of had one person that could cut his hair. He would be all smiles and loved every min of it. Then one day she was out sick so they said someone else could do it. OMG it was like someone was trying to kill him. He freaked and screamed it was crazy. I did not really believe his mom when she told me how bad he was for hair cuts before they found Libby. I don't know what is was with her, but he just loved her. I hope you will find a "Libby" for Ian.

I am so glad that you said something to that woman. People need to think before they open their big mouths. Maybe next time she will not be so quick to judge and realize that a child may have a special need and it is not aways the parents fault. You were not using his disability as an excuse, you were educating people that children autism, and many other disabilites, have a very difficut time with things that other kids just take for granted.

Debbie
07-16-2007, 12:55 PM
I think you had every right to put that woman in her place as she obviously thought that's what she was doing to you.... If she didn't want you to hear her, she would have said it quietly or waited until you were gone kwim. What a mean nasty person!!!
I can't wait to see the new dew!:smt036 :hug:

AvasMommy
07-16-2007, 12:59 PM
WTG for speaking up, Leigh! I'm glad you did, and I hope that woman felt 3 inches tall.

Ava has yet to have a haircut, unless you count the time she was about 13 mos old and I cut her baby mullet off while she was asleep. I cut it miraculously well (I can't even trim my own bangs, though) and she's yet to need another trim. MY BFF is a stylist and she's down here for a week, so I know she'll be vying for the #1 haircut slot.

Try to get a pic of him! Man, do we have a bunch of redheads around here? It kinda seems like we do...doesn't it?