View Full Version : I think we're officially done...


AvasMommy
12-05-2006, 08:45 PM
:sad5: and I'm pretty sad about it! It's been 2 days since her last "drive-by"...she hasn't nursed for longer than 5 min at a time in a loooooong time, and the DBs have only been lasting about 30 seconds. I hope she doesn't decide to "thank you, drive thru!" again though...I've still got such a full supply, I'm afraid if she starts again I''ll be lactating at my retirement party!

So, I guess I'm asking...is it over? I'm pretty sad, even though a wean has been in the works for quite awhile. Should I take my LilyPie ticker down?:sob:

Either way...it's been the most amazing thing I've ever done. I'm so proud of us for lasting so long, and I love how close it's made us...I wouldn't trade it for the world! 19 mos of sustaining someone else w/ my own body? That's crazy! Mindboggling what our bodies can do, huh? She's worth every inch my boobs have sagged though!:haha:

Debbie
12-05-2006, 09:08 PM
:sad5: and I'm pretty sad about it! It's been 2 days since her last "drive-by"...she hasn't nursed for longer than 5 min at a time in a loooooong time, and the DBs have only been lasting about 30 seconds. I hope she doesn't decide to "thank you, drive thru!" again though...I've still got such a full supply, I'm afraid if she starts again I''ll be lactating at my retirement party!

So, I guess I'm asking...is it over? I'm pretty sad, even though a wean has been in the works for quite awhile. Should I take my LilyPie ticker down?:sob:

Either way...it's been the most amazing thing I've ever done. I'm so proud of us for lasting so long, and I love how close it's made us...I wouldn't trade it for the world! 19 mos of sustaining someone else w/ my own body? That's crazy! Mindboggling what our bodies can do, huh? She's worth every inch my boobs have sagged though!:haha:

Oh ya...wait till your 40 you might not feel the same...lol (not about her lol)
How low can they gooooo!?:favorites21:

kerrinry
12-05-2006, 09:10 PM
AWW! I wish I would have nursed Sam. If we ever have another one I think I would, especially after hearing your story. I heard on the radio this am that a mother, her 7 month girl and 4 year old girl (husband missing) were stranded in snow and she nursed both children and kept them alive for 7 or 9 days. It is a truly miraculous thing!

Katey
12-06-2006, 07:06 AM
Ohh! Shs is growing up. It sounds like it is ready to stop. It must be so sad, she is not a baby anymore.

I hope I have better luck nursing the next one, but if it has as many food problems as Sebastain I am not sure I would have it in me to give up so much and have to wait so long for results. I am a fix it now kind of person. You are so lucky you got to have that time with her as long as you did!

Amy
12-06-2006, 07:15 AM
congratulations on lasting so long i think thats great

Mary
12-06-2006, 01:50 PM
:sad5: I, too, nursed until B was 19 months old. In our case, I was told to wean her b/c she needed to have her intake/cals monitored and they felt that getting her on Neocate would help her with weight. B hated it and I hated myself for having to do it. :-( :-( :-( You know, those first few months when they're teeny, you fantasize about having your boobs all to yourself again one day...then, when that day comes, it's pretty sad.

I miss the closeness and the cuddling. I'll bet you do, too. :sad5:

I can tell you that frozen peas were my breast (ha!) friend in the days following our official weaning. If you can, go to the store and get a few bags of generic frozen baby peas, wrap those puppies in a thin dishtowel and stuff one into each bra cup at night. You'll look as fabulous as you feel, trust me. :smt036

During the day, both Gerber & Johnson/Johnson make cool pads (gel filled packs you keep in the fridge or freezer) to wear around (however, they lose their cool-ness pretty quickly--buy 2 sets!) to help ease the engorgement.

AvasMommy
12-06-2006, 02:39 PM
Thanks guys! I do miss it already...even the nursing 8 or 10 times a night...well, maybe not THAT, but you know what I mean!

Thanks Mary! The engorgement hasn't been as bad as I thought it'd be...so far at least! I'm sure it will get worse in the next few days! About a week ago, I actually thought I had some sort of nipple infection...during her last drive-by, Ava bit me really, really hard...since then, my left nipple, on the bottom and to the base of my boob has literally just been KILLING ME! I don't think it's infected or a clogged duct...it's soooooo much better now!

Still sad though, but so grateful for the experience! I'm pretty sure we're done in the procreation department, so I'll cherish the time we've had forever!:sad5:

eaglemansbaby1124
12-06-2006, 05:03 PM
I breastfed Desi but had to stop b/c cause of lack of supply. I breastfed for about 2 months and stopped. I regret not breastfeeding KC I tried so hard but he would not except it. I think it is so great that you breastfed for 19 months. Was she b/f only or did you sub with formula? Well anyways You must be pfoud of yourself for sticking with it for this long.

Shaes Grammy
12-06-2006, 06:41 PM
Lindsay:

"Where is my sweet little baby and who is this big KID?"

Are you thinking of another little baby maybe??????????

With that question, I am glad the computer screen and thousands of miles separate us LOL

:smt041

AvasMommy
12-07-2006, 09:12 AM
LOL, Grammy Jean! I get sad when I think about all the "happy baby" moments we've been cheated out of...I really do feel like we were robbed...but dh and I have always thought about only having one child. Now, after all we've been thru, that's pretty much been cemented, and not just because of reflux. Our little family is perfect for us...the three of us are unbelievably close, and I really don't think I want to mess with "perfection", he he! I love the way things are...I know some people think it's wrong or selfish to have only one child, but I think it's selfish to have another just for the sake of not having an only child. What's so bad about being an only child?!?!?! Ava is our perfect little sidekick, and I like it that way. I can't explain it, since I always thought I'd have two, but it just feels right for us.

So, no...there probably won't be the second coming of Knops! :rolling:

kkmum
12-07-2006, 10:20 AM
Awww you have done so well making it to 19 months i hope i can follow in your footsteps;-)

I too will miss breastfeeding when she stops and hope it will continue for a while yet. We are only really planning on having one child too so i try and keep in mind she might be my last (never say never though!!)
I don't think its selfish to have 1 child, my boyfriend is an only child and he loved it!! I'm one of four and it put me off having lots of children!!
Maybe if we won the lottery i would be more inclined to have another child but otherwise i just want to give K all the love and attention i have to offer.

stephiehatt
12-07-2006, 10:21 AM
:hug: Linds, that's got to be a hard thing to give up. I gave up after only 3.5 weeks w/the boys and I wish I could have kept it up for longer. But I had always told myself I would try and if it didn't work then I wouldn't beat myself up over it. But it is amazing that our bodies can do that. Dylan and Keegan were pretty poor eaters when they were first born and they were giving them Similac Advance while my milk was still taking it's time to come in. I'd pump out the tiny little bits of colustrum and they'd mix it in their little 1 oz. bottles but they still didn't take much. Then by day 5 my milk FINALLY started to come in (took long enough) and when the boys got a taste of just pure breastmilk they started gobbling it up like crazy. That was such a great feeling!

While I wish I would have kept it up, exhaustion and PPD got the better of me and I sent back my rented hospital grade pump after a month. I just was too exhausted. But even those first few weeks of breastmilk I know still are good for them. They say that even if they just get that colustrum that they get huge benefits from it. So that makes me glad I at least tried it. I did always wonder after they got reflux if I had kept it up if that wouldn't have happened. But I've seen enough on this site to know that probably isn't true and given that they are still refluxing at 10 mos. (albeit they are much improved!) breastfeeding probably wouldn't have been the answer, not totally anyway.

Here's hoping your weaning is not painful! I walked around with a sports bra stuffed with those freezer gelpacks for like a week or something.

Shaes Grammy
12-07-2006, 05:41 PM
Lindsay, very nicely put.


LOL, Grammy Jean! I get sad when I think about all the "happy baby" moments we've been cheated out of...I really do feel like we were robbed...but dh and I have always thought about only having one child. Now, after all we've been thru, that's pretty much been cemented, and not just because of reflux. Our little family is perfect for us...the three of us are unbelievably close, and I really don't think I want to mess with "perfection", he he! I love the way things are...I know some people think it's wrong or selfish to have only one child, but I think it's selfish to have another just for the sake of not having an only child. What's so bad about being an only child?!?!?! Ava is our perfect little sidekick, and I like it that way. I can't explain it, since I always thought I'd have two, but it just feels right for us.

So, no...there probably won't be the second coming of Knops! :rolling:







I think that is how Roni feels also and I am glad. I am very happy with her having just Shae-Lynne. :smt041